growing up

30-Something Men

On Friday night, N and I ended up at XYZ for dinner. This is not particularly remarkable in itself, except that I happened to be sitting by a group of three 30-something single men. Now, I wasn't trying to eavesdrop, but it was really loud at XYZ, and these men were practically yelling in my ear, so it was hard not to hear what they said. Essentially, Guy A had recently been on a date with a woman, and they group was discussing the date. While the woman was hot, and had similar interests with Guy A, he was not planning on going out with her again, because there was something "off" about her.

As I recalled my college days of hanging out with early 20-something guys, something struck me- the early 20-something year old is really not deterred by something being "off", so long as the woman is hot. The 30-something man, on the other hand, appears to be more concerned with the woman's position on the Hot/Crazy scale. This leads to the natural conclusion, that unless you're Gisele, women should really leave their crazy at home, at least for the first few dates. The question is though, is that perfectly acceptable protocol, or is it false advertising, like padded bras?

Please discuss...

The Best Baby Shower. Ever.

Bad Blogger!!! I'm figuratively slapping myself on the wrist for leaving you for so long. On the plus side, I've been doing a lot and shopping a lot, so I have plenty of material for the next few weeks!!

This past weekend, I was in Chicago visiting some of my friends (T, CJ, and Aneesha) from my very first "grown-up" job. We were fresh out of college, in the real world, making a ridiculously small salary, and for the life of me, I can't figure out how we managed to pay rent, have fun, and eat!! Anyway, we're all grown up now, and one of our very own, the very fabulous CJ, is expecting a baby in June!! Seriously, CJ is THE cutest preggers person I know (not counting Victoria Beckham)! If you look at her from behind, you can't tell she's preggers. You also can't tell she's preggers if she's sitting at a table, and it covers her belly. Its ridiculous. I don't think I want kids, but if I do, I only want them if I can look like her when preggers.

CJ is definitely the type of person that wants a non-traditional baby shower, so T planned an afternoon at the spa, filled with mimosas (not for the mommy-to-be obvi; she stuck to sparkling grape juice).  Off we went, 10 women at Reina Spa, getting pampered with mani's and pedi's. Here's what I love about Chicago: you can get a mani and pedi for $40!!!! Come on Cleveland, get it together!! I hate that the pedi itself costs $40!!! Maintenance in Cleveland gets really pricey!!! Amidst lots of laughter and catching up, I got myself a manicure with that new(ish) shatter/crackle polish, that I really really love!!  About 4 hours later, we were ready for some food, and headed to dinner at Club Lucky. More wine and some delicious food followed, and we called it a night.

Seriously, such a FUN baby shower!!!! Its funny, none of my Chi-town girl friends, myself included, make much effort to keep in touch; We'll email every now and then, but by and large, we're pretty bad at it. And then I make my annual visit to Chicago, and its like nothing every changed. The distance and lack of contact is nothing; its like we never missed a beat!! Do you have friends like that? I really hope you do. Everyone deserves that sort of effortless, drama-free, endlessly fulfilling friendship!!